Thursday, February 5, 2015

Back to K

As I mentioned in my 'back from the grave' post, I have not been shopping for new clothes recently. I had a lot of other things going on and I was more focused on decorating my new place but mostly it was because I have considered myself a finished project.

I was always interested in fashion. I grew up with a mother who owned enough shoes and clothes to stock a department store and in High School I've even sewn my own clothes. However, over the years, dressing up in the morning became an afterthought. Then one day, few years ago, I looked in the mirror and screamed in horror. How did I became that frumpy, slightly overweight mother, hair up in black scrunchie, clad in clearance sneakers and ill fitting jeans? For the next couple of years I went through my own 'what not to wear' project. Somewhere on my journey I have become a JCrew junkie and even started a blog documenting my shopping habits. But you already know that.

I did not stop blogging because I was depressed after getting divorced, as painful as it was. In fact, after my ex left in December 2012 and I got laid off, I traveled and got a new job and I was still posting quite a lot until the following summer.  But as I was becoming the new single-again, totally-grown-ass-woman, I realized that I am not a project anymore. I was done. I still wasn't perfect, mind you (just ask my ex, haha). But somehow, I was good enough.

I realized that I went the whole circle. In many ways I was back to the way I used to dress, But I was weeding through what I learned during my fashion obsessed period, discarding what I could not keep up with and sticking to my tried and true, hopefully more refined, definitely more confident.

Nowadays, I do think about what I wear every morning. But I went back to wearing more jeans and t-shirts. I like my skinny jeans because I think my legs are my best feature. I stick to certain brands and I never regret paying a premium. I also love good quality swingy t-shirts. I dress it up with heels and maybe a necklace or a scarf and usually this is my uniform. When the weather is warmer I love to wear dresses, when its cold I have a few favorite coats and boots. I bought a Rag and Bone fedora and it works wonders with many outfits. Nothing earth shuttering but it works for me. I have worn jeans and t-shirts before and looked frumpy. I thought that I needed much more variety and I wanted to be unexpected. But I discovered that variety and novelty were overrated, at least for me.

Wearing True Religion Embellished Ankle Skinny Chrissy Jeans and FCUK t-shirt 

Fit is king and quality is my prince charming. Wait, how about the queen? Well, queen is all about the hair. I had a couple of big fancy parties to attend recently. Every time I contemplated buying a new dress but I decided to get my hair done instead (it was still cheaper, too). Hair is the best fashion accessory. That's when I realized the advantage of LBD and black clothes in general. Nobody remembers them, so you can wear them multiple times! And they hide the stains better. Genius!

Did I really need to spend all that time and money to arrive at the obvious? I guess I did and I have enjoyed the journey. I feel like I am Dorothy discovering that I could have came back to Kansas all along. But it was definitely more fun to travel on the yellow brick road. JC must have been the wicked witch I have slayed!

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What do you think? Does it make any sense to you or am I just rambling incoherently? Love to hear your thoughts!!!!

    

 

16 comments:

  1. I could not agree with you more about the hair! I have decided my best accessory at an event is a blow-out -- makes me feel confident and sexy immediately and the clothes become secondary to my attitude!

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    1. I have gotten more blow-outs in the last two years than in the 10 years before. My hair dresser loves me and I totally agree, it works like magic!

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  2. I am coming into a similar phase with my clothes so I think I understand what you are saying. I noticed my frump, tried out some different styles, and I think I've found what feels like me now. All the embellishments and interesting prints and bright colors that my eye is drawn to, they don't really feel like me when I put them on. I feel good in simpler clothes that fit me well. I still love to see what J. Crew and other retailers come out with, but I'm more careful now about what I buy/keep.

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    1. I love prints and mixing patterns and color but I realized that I feel more like myself in styles that are more streamlined. I am often seduced by beautiful things but I don't really want to just stare at my closet and often clothes that look like nothing on the hanger are the best looking once on.

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  3. Great post! You look fab. I, too, think hair is No. 1 in the appearance situation. I really don't like blowouts because my stylist doesn't do it as well as I think I do - but color is supreme to looking good!

    I've missed your blog!

    Didn't know you went through a divorce, but am glad you are in a good place with inner peace. Hope your child/children are coping well?

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    1. Thanks Vava! I love my stylist, I think my color never looked so good before I found him.
      My kids seem to be doing fine. That said, I am not going to lie, divorce is really a nightmare. for so many reasons. But I believe we learn something from every experience and hopefully became better human beings.

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  4. yes, makes perfect sense to me too. i have always loved fashion, even if my style was pretty basic. i've never like myself in prints - except in a dress for some reason. but jeans are just so me, i will never tire of them. you are one smart cookie!

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    1. Janet, your style is perfect, you are one of my inspirations!

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  5. Oh my god! So happy to see you! It makes Perfect sense to me as I have gone through the same thing! I guess you have to play and I also would love to do a sociological/economic study of the time when online shopping and blogs really took off - there is a direct correlation I think between all of that and many of us questioning our style! Actually, I don't want to do the study, but might write a post about it! Sending you a big kiss!

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    1. Wendy, so happy to have those conversations with all of you! Haha, I don't know about the study but maybe yes, men buy shiny red sports cars and women buy sparkly shoes and red dresses...

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